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1. How has Jehovah shown that his sheep are precious to him?

JEHOVAH’S sheep are precious to him. He purchased them with the blood of Jesus and assigned the congregation elders to care for His flock. (Acts 20:28) God wants his sheep to be treated tenderly. Under Christ’s leadership, the elders refresh the sheep and protect them from spiritual danger.​—Isa. 32:1, 2.

2. In whom does Jehovah show special interest? (Ezekiel 34:15, 16)

² Jehovah has deep concern for all his sheep, but he gives special care to those who are suffering. Through the elders, he helps those who are suffering in a spiritual sense. (Read Ezekiel 34:15, 16.) However, he wants us to seek help when we need it. At such times, in addition to our earnest prayers to God for support, we request the assistance of the “shepherds and teachers” in the congregation.​—Eph. 4:11, 12.

3. How can all of us benefit from considering the role of the elders?

³ In this article, we will examine God’s arrangement for us to get spiritual help through the elders. We will answer these questions: When should we ask the elders for help? Why should we do so? And how do they help us? Even if we are not currently experiencing a difficulty, the answers to those questions will increase our appreciation for God’s arrangement and may someday save our life.

WHEN SHOULD WE “CALL THE ELDERS”?

4. Why do we conclude that James 5:14-16, 19, 20 refers to spiritual sickness? (See also pictures.)

⁴ The disciple James introduces the subject of God’s arrangement for spiritual assistance by asking: “Is there anyone sick among you? Let him call the elders of the congregation.” (Read James 5:14-16, 19, 20.) The context shows that James is speaking of spiritual sickness. For instance, the sick one is told to call, not a doctor, but the elders. And spiritual sickness is implied because the healing can involve the forgiveness of sins. In some respects, the steps needed to treat spiritual sickness are similar to those needed for physical ailments. When we are physically sick, we visit a doctor, explain our symptoms, and follow his directions. Likewise, when we are spiritually ailing, we should approach an elder, describe our situation, and act on the Scriptural counsel we receive.

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5. How can we tell if we are in danger of becoming spiritually sick?

⁵ The arrangement described in James chapter 5 encourages us to approach the elders when we feel that our spiritual health is suffering in any way. How wise it is, though, for us to receive help before we cause serious damage to our friendship with God! We must be honest with ourselves. The Scriptures warn that we can deceive ourselves about our spiritual condition. (Jas. 1:22) Some early Christians in Sardis made this mistake, and Jesus warned them about their spiritual state. (Rev. 3:1, 2) One way we can check our spiritual health is by comparing our enthusiasm for our worship now with how we felt in previous times. (Rev. 2:4, 5) We could ask ourselves: ‘Has my joy for Bible reading and meditation diminished? Has my meeting preparation and attendance become haphazard? Has my zeal for the ministry cooled? Do pleasures or possessions occupy more of my time and thinking?’ If the answer to any of these questions is yes, it could indicate a weakness that if not addressed will likely get worse. If we are unable to remedy the weakness on our own or if it has already led us to violate God’s standards, we should ask the elders for help.

6. What should those who have committed a serious sin do?

⁶ Of course, those who have committed a serious sin, one that could lead to a person’s being removed from the congregation, should approach an elder. (1 Cor. 5:11-13) Any who have succumbed to serious sin need help to repair their relationship with Jehovah. To gain Jehovah’s forgiveness through the ransom, we must display “works that befit repentance.” (Acts 26:20) Those works include approaching the elders if we have committed a serious sin.

7. Who else needs the assistance of the elders?

⁷ The elders not only assist those who have committed a serious sin but also help those who are spiritually weak. (Acts 20:35) For example, you might fear that you are losing your fight against wrong desires. Your struggle might be especially challenging if before you learned the truth you were addicted to drugs, were exposed to pornography, or led an immoral life. You need not face these challenges alone. You can choose to speak to an elder who will listen to your concerns, offer practical counsel, and assure you that you can please Jehovah by refusing to act on wrong desires. (Eccl. 4:12) If you have become discouraged in your struggle, the elders can remind you that this likely shows that you are taking your relationship with Jehovah seriously and are avoiding overconfidence.​—1 Cor. 10:12.

8. In connection with what sort of sins do we not need to approach the elders?

⁸ We do not need to go to the elders for every concern we may have about our spiritual health. For instance, suppose you say something hurtful to a brother or a sister, perhaps even lose your temper. Rather than approach an elder, you could apply Jesus’ counsel about making peace between you and your brother or sister. (Matt. 5:23, 24) You could research the subjects of mildness, patience, and self-control so that you can display those fine qualities more fully in the future. Of course, if you are still unable to solve your problem, you could ask an elder for assistance. In his letter to the Philippians, the apostle Paul asked an unnamed brother to help Euodia and Syntyche to resolve their differences, and an elder in your congregation may be able to aid you in the same way.​—Phil. 4:2, 3.

WHY SHOULD WE CALL THE ELDERS?

9. Why should we not let shame stop us from calling the elders? (Proverbs 28:13)

⁹ We need faith and courage to ask for help when we have committed a serious sin or when we feel that we are losing our fight against a personal weakness. We should not let shame hold us back from calling the elders. Why not? By following Jehovah’s arrangement, we show that we trust him and his instructions for keeping us healthy and strong in the faith. We acknowledge that we need his help if we are about to fall. (Ps. 94:18) And if we have sinned, we will receive God’s mercy if we confess and abandon our sins.​—Read Proverbs 28:13.

10. What can happen if we were to try to hide our sins?

¹⁰ In contrast to the blessings we gain by speaking to an elder when we need help, we can make our situation worse if we try to hide our sins. When King David tried to cover up his sins, he suffered spiritually, emotionally, and even physically. (Ps. 32:3-5) Like a physical illness or injury, a spiritual problem often gets worse if we fail to take care of it. Jehovah understands this, so he invites us to “set matters straight” with him through the means he has set up for our spiritual healing.​—Isa. 1:5, 6, 18.

11. How could others be affected if we were to hide serious sins?

¹¹ If we were to hide our serious sin, we could affect others. We could hinder the flow of God’s spirit to the entire congregation and threaten the peace of our brothers and sisters. (Eph. 4:30) Likewise, if we learn that someone else in the congregation has committed a serious sin, we should urge that one to speak to the elders about the matter.a Hiding the serious sin of another person would make us guilty as well. (Lev. 5:1) Our love for Jehovah should move us to come forward and to speak the truth. We thus help to keep the congregation clean and to restore such erring ones to a good relationship with Jehovah.

HOW DO THE ELDERS HELP US?

12. How do the elders help those who are spiritually weak?

¹² The elders are instructed to support those who are spiritually weak. (1 Thess. 5:14) If you have erred, they may ask you discerning questions to ‘draw out’ your inner thoughts and feelings. (Prov. 20:5) You can help them by expressing yourself openly, even if you find this difficult to do because of your culture, your personality, or your embarrassment over the challenge you are facing. Do not be afraid that your words may seem like “wild talk.” (Job 6:3) Instead of quickly drawing a conclusion, the elders will strive to listen carefully and get the whole picture before offering you counsel. (Prov. 18:13) They realize that shepherding the flock takes time, so they do not expect to resolve challenging issues with one discussion.

13. How can the elders help us by means of their prayers and Scriptural guidance? (See also pictures.)

¹³ When you call the elders, they will strive not to add to your sense of guilt. Rather, they will pray in your behalf. You might be pleasantly surprised at the “powerful effect” that their prayers can have. Their assistance also includes “applying oil to [you] in the name of Jehovah.” (Jas. 5:14-16) This “oil” refers to the truth of God’s Word. Through their skillful use of the Bible, the elders can soothe and comfort you, helping you to restore your relationship with Jehovah. (Isa. 57:18) The Scriptural guidance they share can strengthen your resolve to keep doing what is right. Through them, you can hear Jehovah’s voice telling you: “This is the way. Walk in it.”​—Isa. 30:21.

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14. According to Galatians 6:1, how do the elders help any who have taken “a false step”? (See also pictures.)

¹⁴ Read Galatians 6:1. A Christian who takes “a false step” is not walking in harmony with God’s righteous standards. The false step could refer to a mistake in judgment or a serious transgression of God’s law. Christian elders, moved by love, “try to readjust such a man in a spirit of mildness.” The Greek word translated “readjust” can also describe setting a dislocated bone back in place to prevent a permanent disability. Just as a skillful doctor endeavors to set a broken bone with as little pain as possible, the elders focus on healing our spiritual illness without adding to our pain. They are also instructed to “keep an eye on [themselves].” As they help us to straighten our path, elders recognize that they too are imperfect and prone to false steps. Far from showing a superior, self-righteous, or judgmental attitude, they strive to be empathetic.​—1 Pet. 3:8.

15. What might we do if we have a problem?

¹⁵ We can trust our congregation elders. They have been trained to keep our confidential matters private, to base their counsel on the Bible rather than on their own opinions, and to follow through in helping us carry our burdens. (Prov. 11:13; Gal. 6:2) Their personalities and experience vary, but we can feel free to approach any elder to discuss a problem. Of course, we would not go from one elder to another, asking for advice, hoping to find one who will tell us what we want to hear. If we were to do that, we would be like those who would rather have “their ears tickled” than learn the “wholesome teaching” of God’s Word. (2 Tim. 4:3) When we approach an elder about a problem, he may ask us if we have talked with other elders about it and what counsel they gave. And modesty may move him to ask another elder for advice.​—Prov. 13:10.

OUR PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY

16. What personal responsibility do we have?

¹⁶ Although the elders keep watch over us as God’s sheep, they do not tell us what to do. We have a personal responsibility to live a life of godly devotion. We must answer to God for our own words and actions. With his support, we can meet the challenge of keeping our integrity. (Rom. 14:12) So rather than dictate a course of action to us, the elders direct attention to God’s thinking as found in his Word. By following their Bible-based counsel, we can train our own “powers of discernment” to make wise decisions.​—Heb. 5:14.

17. What should be our determination?

¹⁷ What a precious privilege we have to be Jehovah’s sheep! Jehovah sent “the fine shepherd,” Jesus, to pay the ransom for us so that we could have the opportunity for everlasting life. (John 10:11) And by means of the elders in the Christian congregation, Jehovah has fulfilled his promise: “I will give you shepherds after my own heart, and they will feed you with knowledge and insight.” (Jer. 3:15) When we are spiritually weak or sick, we should not hesitate to call the elders for their help. May we be determined to benefit fully from Jehovah’s provision of the congregation elders.

1-2. How do many people react to injustice, and what might we wonder about?

WE LIVE in an unjust world. People are treated unfairly for many reasons, such as their economic status, gender, ethnicity, or race. They suffer the effects of environmental problems caused or worsened by greedy executives and corrupt officials. These and other injustices affect us all, either directly or indirectly.

² It is not surprising that many are angry about the injustice they see in the world today. We all want to live in a world where we feel safe and are treated fairly. Some get involved in social reform efforts. They sign petitions, join protests, and support political leaders who promise to fight injustice. However, as Christians, we are taught to be “no part of the world” and to wait on God’s Kingdom to eliminate all injustice. (John 17:16) Still, we cannot help but be dismayed​—even angry—​when we see someone being treated unfairly. We may wonder: ‘How should I respond? Is there anything I can do about injustice right now?’ To answer these questions, let us begin by considering how Jehovah and Jesus feel about injustice.

JEHOVAH AND JESUS HATE INJUSTICE

3. Why is it understandable for us to feel angry about injustice? (Isaiah 5:7)

³ The Bible gives us the reason why it is understandable for us to be disturbed by injustice. It explains that Jehovah created us in his image and that he “loves righteousness and justice.” (Ps. 33:5; Gen. 1:26) He never acts unjustly, and he does not want anyone else to act that way! (Deut. 32:3, 4; Mic. 6:8; Zech. 7:9) For example, during the time of the prophet Isaiah, Jehovah heard “a cry of distress” from many Israelites who were being mistreated by their countrymen. (Read Isaiah 5:7.) Jehovah took action by punishing those who repeatedly ignored his Law and treated others unfairly.​—Isa. 5:5, 13.

4. What does an event found in the Gospels reveal about how Jesus views injustice? (See also picture.)

⁴ Like Jehovah, Jesus loves justice and hates injustice. On one occasion during his earthly ministry, he saw a man with a disability​—a withered hand. Jesus was moved to help him, but the coldhearted religious leaders felt very differently. They were more concerned with enforcing their rigid interpretation of the Sabbath law than with helping the disadvantaged man. How did Jesus feel about their reaction? He was “thoroughly grieved at the insensibility of their hearts.”​—Mark 3:1-6.

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5. What must we remember about the anger we may feel regarding an injustice?

⁵ Given that both Jehovah and Jesus are angered by injustice, it is not wrong for us to feel that way too. (Eph. 4:26 and study note “Be wrathful”) Yet, we must remember that any anger we feel​—even if it is justified—​will not fix injustice. In fact, prolonged or uncontrolled anger may harm us emotionally and physically. (Ps. 37:1, 8; Jas. 1:20) So how should we deal with injustice? We can learn from Jesus’ example.

HOW JESUS DEALT WITH INJUSTICE

6. What injustices were common when Jesus was on earth? (See also picture.)

⁶ Jesus saw great injustice when he was on earth. He witnessed how the common people were oppressed by the religious leaders. (Matt. 23:2-4) He was aware of how harshly the Roman authorities treated the people. Many Jews longed for independence from Rome. Some, such as the Zealots, were willing to fight for it. Yet, Jesus did not initiate or support movements for social change. When he learned that people were planning to make him king, Jesus separated himself from them.​—John 6:15.

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7-8. Why did Jesus not try to eliminate injustice when he was on earth? (John 18:36)

⁷ When he was on earth, Jesus did not try to work with the political systems of the day in order to eliminate injustice. Why not? He knew that humans have neither the right nor the ability to govern themselves. (Ps. 146:3; Jer. 10:23) They are also incapable of addressing the root causes of injustice. The world is ruled by Satan the Devil, a murderous spirit creature who uses his authority to incite injustice. (John 8:44; Eph. 2:2) And imperfection makes it impossible for even the most well-meaning humans to act fairly at all times.​—Eccl. 7:20.

⁸ Jesus knew that only God’s Kingdom will fully address the root causes of injustice. For that reason, he spent his time and energy on “preaching and declaring the good news of the Kingdom of God.” (Luke 8:1) He assured “those hungering and thirsting for righteousness” that the end of corruption and injustice would come. (Matt. 5:6 and study note; Luke 18:7, 8) However, this will be achieved, not through social reform, but through the rulership of God’s heavenly government, which is “no part of this world.”​—Read John 18:36.

IMITATE JESUS WHEN DEALING WITH INJUSTICE

9. What convinces you that only God’s Kingdom will eliminate all injustice?

⁹ Today we see even more injustice than Jesus saw when he was on earth. But the source of injustice in these “last days” continues to be Satan and the imperfect people under his influence. (2 Tim. 3:1-5, 13; Rev. 12:12) Like Jesus, we know that only God’s Kingdom will eliminate the root causes of injustice. Because we fully support that Kingdom, we refuse to get involved with this world’s marches, protests, and other efforts to curb injustice. Consider the experience of a sister named Stacy.a Before she learned the truth, Stacy regularly joined in efforts to promote social reform. But she began to have doubts about what she was doing. She says: “When I was at protests, I would question whether I was on the correct side. Now that I support God’s Kingdom, I know that I’m on the right side. I know that Jehovah will fight for every victim of oppression better than I ever could.”​—Ps. 72:1, 4.

10. In what way are social reform movements out of harmony with Jesus’ counsel found at Matthew 5:43-48? (See also picture.)

¹⁰ The social reform movements of this world are often marked by an independent and bitter spirit that is at odds with Jesus’ example and teachings. (Eph. 4:31) A brother named Jeffrey observes: “I know that seemingly peaceful protests can in a matter of seconds turn into violence and looting.” However, Jesus teaches us to treat all people with love, even those who disagree with us or persecute us. (Read Matthew 5:43-48.) As Christians, we do our best to avoid anything that is out of harmony with the pattern that Jesus set for us.

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11. What can test our determination not to support social reform movements?

¹¹ Although we know that God’s Kingdom will permanently solve injustice, we could find it hard to imitate Jesus when we are treated unfairly. Consider what happened to Janiya, who experienced discrimination. She admits: “I was furious. I also felt hurt and wanted the injustice to be avenged. Then I thought about supporting a movement protesting racism and discrimination. I felt that doing so was a safe way to express my anger.” In time, however, Janiya realized that she needed to make changes. “I was allowing others to sway my thinking,” she says, “to influence me to place my trust in man instead of in Jehovah. I decided to cut off all association with the movement.” We must be careful not to allow any righteous anger we feel to cause us to compromise our neutral stand regarding this world’s political and social issues.​—John 15:19.

12. Why is it wise to be selective regarding the information we take in?

¹² What can help us to control our feelings of anger over an injustice? Many have found it helpful to be selective in what they read, listen to, and watch. Some forms of social media are full of posts that sensationalize injustices and that promote social reform movements. Often, news agencies report information in a biased way. Even if we hear a report about a valid injustice, will dwelling on it really help us? If we spend a lot of time consuming such information, we may become needlessly frustrated or discouraged. (Prov. 24:10) Even worse, we could lose sight of the ultimate solution to all injustice​—God’s Kingdom.

13. How can a good routine of Bible reading help us to maintain the right attitude about injustice?

¹³ A good routine of Bible reading and meditation can help us to deal with injustice. A sister named Alia was deeply disturbed by the way people in her community were being mistreated. It seemed that those responsible for the mistreatment were not being held accountable. She says: “I had to sit down and ask myself, ‘Do I actually believe that Jehovah will fix these problems?’ It was during that time that I read Job 34:22-29. Those verses reminded me that no one can hide from Jehovah. Only he has a perfect sense of justice, and only he will fully correct matters.” Still, as we wait for God’s Kingdom to bring true justice, we need to deal with injustice now. How?

WHAT WE CAN DO ABOUT INJUSTICE NOW

14. What can we do to avoid contributing to this world’s injustices? (Colossians 3:10, 11)

¹⁴ We may not be able to control the unjust actions of others, but we can control our own actions. As previously discussed, we imitate Jesus by showing love. Such love can move us to treat others​—even perpetrators of injustice—​with respect. (Matt. 7:12; Rom. 12:17) Jehovah is pleased when we treat everyone kindly and fairly.​—Read Colossians 3:10, 11.

15. What effect does our sharing Bible truth have on present injustice?

¹⁵ The most important way we can respond to injustice is by sharing Bible truths with others. Why do we say that? Because “the knowledge of Jehovah” can transform a person who was formerly aggressive and violent into a kind, peace-loving individual. (Isa. 11:6, 7, 9) Before learning the truth, a man named Jemal joined a rebel group to fight a political regime that he felt was oppressive. He says: “You can’t change people by force. I was not changed by force, but I was changed by Bible truth that I was learning.” What Jemal learned motivated him to stop fighting. The more people there are who are transformed by Bible truth, the fewer people there will be who add to present injustice.

16. Why are you motivated to share the Kingdom hope?

¹⁶ Like Jesus, we are eager to tell people that God’s Kingdom offers the only permanent solution to injustice. That hope can encourage those who have been mistreated. (Jer. 29:11) Stacy, quoted earlier, explains: “Learning the truth has helped me to cope with the injustices that I have seen and experienced. Jehovah uses the Bible’s message to provide comfort.” To share the Bible’s comforting message about the solution to injustice, you need to be well-prepared. The more convinced you become of the truthfulness of the Scriptural thoughts considered in this article, the better equipped you will be to discuss this topic with tact if it comes up at school or at work.b

17. How does Jehovah help us to cope with present injustice?

¹⁷ We know that we will face injustice as long as Satan remains “the ruler of this world.” But we are neither helpless nor hopeless as we await his being “cast out.” (John 12:31) Through the Scriptures, Jehovah reveals not only why there is so much injustice but also how he feels about the distress that it causes us. (Ps. 34:17-19) By means of his Son, Jehovah teaches us how we should respond to present injustice and how his Kingdom will soon eliminate injustice once and for all. (2 Pet. 3:13) May we continue to preach the good news of that Kingdom with zeal, eagerly looking forward to the time when the earth will be filled with “justice and righteousness.”​—Isa. 9:7.

1. Why do humans appreciate being shown respect? (Proverbs 22:1)

DO YOU appreciate it when people show you respect? No doubt you do. Respect is a basic human need. We thrive when we receive it. No wonder the Bible says that “to be respected is better than silver and gold”!​—Read Proverbs 22:1.

2-3. What are some situations in which we ought to show respect for others?

² We may not always find it easy to show respect for others. For one thing, we cannot help but see the flaws of those around us. Also, we live at a time when it is common for people to be disrespectful. But we must be different. Why? Because Jehovah wants us to honor, or show respect for, “men of all sorts.”​—1 Pet. 2:17.

³ We can benefit from discussing what it means to respect others and how we can show it to (1) family members, (2) fellow worshippers, and (3) those outside the congregation. We will focus on how we can show respect under difficult circumstances.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO RESPECT OTHERS?

4. What does it mean to respect others?

⁴ How would you define respect? In some languages, the words “respect” and “honor” are related. How? “Respect” refers primarily to how we view a person. When we respect others, we view them as worthy of our attention and consideration, perhaps because of their qualities, their achievements, or their position. “Honor,” though, refers to how we treat a person. When we honor others, we treat them in ways that make them feel valued, appreciated, and dignified. Of course, for honor to be genuine, it must come from the heart.​—Matt. 15:8.

5. What can help us to show respect for others?

⁵ Jehovah wants us to show respect for others; in fact, he requires it in connection with “the superior authorities.” (Rom. 13:1, 7) But some may say, “I am happy to show people respect, as long as they have earned it.” Is that reasoning sound? As servants of Jehovah, we realize that any respect we have for humans is not based solely on their actions. It is based on something deeper​—our love for Jehovah and our desire to please him.​—Josh. 4:14; 1 Pet. 3:15.

6. Is it possible to show respect for someone who does not respect you? Explain. (See also picture.)

⁶ Some may wonder, ‘Is it really possible to show respect for someone who does not treat you with respect?’ Yes. Consider some examples. King Saul humiliated his son Jonathan in front of others. (1 Sam. 20:30-34) Still, Jonathan respectfully supported his father in battle until the day Saul died. (Ex. 20:12; 2 Sam. 1:23) High Priest Eli accused Hannah of being drunk. (1 Sam. 1:12-14) Nonetheless, Hannah spoke respectfully to Eli, even though his failures both as a father and as a high priest were widely known in Israel. (1 Sam. 1:15-18; 2:22-24) And men of Athens insulted the apostle Paul, calling him a “chatterer.” (Acts 17:18) Despite this, Paul spoke respectfully to them. (Acts 17:22) It should be evident that deep love for Jehovah and a healthy fear of displeasing him can move us to show respect for others not only when it is easy but also when it is difficult. Let us discuss who deserves our respect and why.

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SHOW RESPECT FOR FAMILY MEMBERS

7. What may make it difficult for us to treat family members with respect?

⁷ The challenge. We spend a lot of time with our family. As a result, we know both their strengths and their weaknesses. Some may have an illness that makes it difficult for us to care for them, or they may suffer from excessive anxiety. Others may even speak and act in ways that hurt us. Instead of trying to make their home a place of rest and peace, some create turmoil by treating family members with a lack of respect. Consequently, there is no harmony. Like arthritis that prevents body parts from working together smoothly, disrespect keeps family members from working unitedly. But unlike arthritis, which we ourselves cannot completely remedy, we can stop disrespect from crippling our family relationships.

8. Why is it important to show respect for family members? (1 Timothy 5:4, 8)

⁸ Why show respect? (Read 1 Timothy 5:4, 8.) In his first letter to Timothy, Paul discussed how family members should care for one another’s needs. He explained that our primary motive for honoring those of our household in this way should be, not out of mere duty, but out of “godly devotion.” This term refers to loyal worship and service to God. Jehovah established the family arrangement. (Eph. 3:14, 15) So when we honor a family member, we actually honor Jehovah, the Originator of the family. (See study notes on 1 Timothy 5:4.) What a powerful reason to show respect for family members!

9. How can a husband and a wife show respect for each other? (See also pictures.)

⁹ How to show respect. A husband who honors his wife shows both in private and in public that she is precious to him. (Prov. 31:28; 1 Pet. 3:7) He never strikes her, humiliates her, or makes her feel worthless. Ariel,a who lives in Argentina, says: “Because of my wife’s illness, she at times says things that hurt me. When this happens, I remind myself that her words do not reflect her true feelings. In tense moments, I recall 1 Corinthians 13:5, which motivates me to communicate in a respectful way rather than in a demeaning way.” (Prov. 19:11) A wife honors her husband by speaking well of him to others. (Eph. 5:33) She avoids sarcasm, mocking, and name-calling; she realizes that such conduct is the rust that corrodes a marriage. (Prov. 14:1) A sister in Italy whose husband struggles with anxiety says: “At times, I feel that my husband’s concerns are exaggerated. In the past, my words and facial expressions revealed a lack of respect for him. But I find that the more I associate with people who talk about others respectfully, the more I am moved to show respect for my husband.”

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10. How can young people show that they respect their parents?

¹⁰ Young people, obey the family rules that your parents set for you. (Eph. 6:1-3) Speak respectfully to your parents. (Ex. 21:17) As they get older, your parents may need more of your attention. Do your best to care for them. Consider the example of María, whose father is not one of Jehovah’s Witnesses. When her father fell ill, he made it difficult for María to care for him. She recalls: “I prayed not only to have respect for my father but also to be able to show it. I reasoned that if Jehovah asks me to honor my parents, then logically he can give me the strength to do so. In time, I came to realize that my father does not have to change his conduct in order for me to treat him with respect.” When we honor our family members despite their failings, we prove that we respect Jehovah’s arrangement.

SHOW RESPECT FOR FELLOW WORSHIPPERS

11. Why may it be difficult to treat fellow worshippers with respect?

¹¹ The challenge. Fellow believers live by Bible standards; yet, at times some may treat us unkindly, judge us unfairly, or irritate us. If a fellow worshipper gives us “a cause for complaint,” we may struggle to continue treating him with respect. (Col. 3:13) What can help us to cope?

12. Why is it important to show respect for fellow believers? (2 Peter 2:9-12)

¹² Why show respect? (Read 2 Peter 2:9-12.) In his second inspired letter, Peter mentioned that some in the first-century Christian congregation were speaking disrespectfully about “glorious ones,” that is, Christian elders. How did the faithful angels who saw what was happening react? “Out of respect for Jehovah,” they did not utter a single abusive word against the wrongdoers. Imagine that! The perfect angels refused to speak harshly about those arrogant men. Instead, they left it to Jehovah to judge and rebuke them. (Rom. 14:10-12; compare Jude 9.) We can take a lesson from the angels. If we should not treat opposers with disrespect, how much more so should we avoid treating fellow believers with disrespect. On the contrary, we should “take the lead” in honoring them. (Rom. 12:10) Doing so shows that we respect Jehovah.

13-14. How can we show respect for those in the congregation? Give examples. (See also pictures.)

¹³ How to show respect. Elders, endeavor to instruct others on the basis of love. (Philem. 8, 9) If you need to counsel someone, do so kindly and not when you are frustrated. Sisters, you can do much to create and to protect the atmosphere of respect in the congregation by refusing to engage in negative gossip or slander. (Titus 2:3-5) All of us can show that we respect congregation elders by cooperating with them and by expressing gratitude for the hard work they do to conduct meetings, to direct the preaching work, and to help those who have taken “a false step.”​—Gal. 6:1; 1 Tim. 5:17.

¹⁴ A sister named Rocío found it difficult to respect an elder who gave her advice. “I felt that he had been hard on me,” she says. “At home, I spoke negatively about him. Although I tried not to show it, inwardly I doubted his motives and dismissed his advice.” What helped Rocío? She explains: “In my Bible reading, I came across 1 Thessalonians 5:12, 13. When I realized that I was not showing respect for this brother, my conscience began to bother me. I prayed to Jehovah and did research in our publications to find specific information that could help me adjust my attitude. I eventually realized that the problem was, not the brother, but my pride. I now understand that there is a relationship between my humility and my ability to respect others. I still need to improve, but as I strive to show respect, I feel at peace with Jehovah.”

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SHOW RESPECT FOR THOSE OUTSIDE THE CONGREGATION

15. Why may we struggle to show respect for those who are not in the congregation?

¹⁵ The challenge. We often meet people in the ministry who appear to have no love for Bible truth. (Eph. 4:18) Some choose to remain ignorant because of their upbringing. We may have to contend with employers or schoolteachers who are hard to please and coworkers or schoolmates who are hard to deal with. Over time, our respect for such ones could decrease and we may fail to treat them as we would like to be treated.

16. Why is it important to show respect for those who are not yet serving Jehovah? (1 Peter 2:12; 3:15)

¹⁶ Why show respect? Remember that Jehovah pays attention to how we treat unbelievers. The apostle Peter reminded Christians that their fine conduct might move some to “glorify God.” For that reason, he admonished them to make a defense of their faith “with a mild temper and deep respect.” (Read 1 Peter 2:12; 3:15.) Whether standing trial for their faith or defending their beliefs while in conversation with a neighbor, Christians were to treat unbelievers just as they would if they were in the presence of God. After all, Jehovah is watching and listening to what we say and how we say it. What a powerful reason to treat those outside the congregation with respect!

17. How can we show respect for those outside the congregation?

¹⁷ How to show respect. While in the ministry, we never want to give the impression that we look down on those who have little or no Bible knowledge. Instead, we want to consider others as both precious to God and superior to us. (Hag. 2:7; Phil. 2:3) If someone insults you for your beliefs, resist the urge to retaliate, such as by using witty but sarcastic speech. (1 Pet. 2:23) If you do say something you regret, apologize immediately. How can you show respect for those at work? Be a conscientious worker and try to cultivate a good attitude toward those you work with and those you work for. (Titus 2:9, 10) When you are an honest, diligent, and whole-souled worker, you may or may not always please men but you will definitely please God.​—Col. 3:22, 23.

18. Why is it worthwhile to cultivate and show respect for others?

¹⁸ What good reasons we have to cultivate and show respect for others! We have seen that when we show respect for our family, we honor our family Head, Jehovah. Likewise, when we show respect for our spiritual brothers and sisters, we honor our heavenly Father. And when we show respect for those outside the congregation, we create the best possible circumstances for them to glorify, or honor, our great God. Even if we never receive respect in return from some humans, it will be worthwhile to cultivate and show respect for them. Why? Because Jehovah will bless us. He promises: “Those honoring me I will honor.”​—1 Sam. 2:30.

1. How do people differ in the way they respond to the good news? (Acts 13:47, 48; 16:14, 15)

MANY people in the first century accepted the truth as soon as they heard the Christian message. (Read Acts 13:47, 48; 16:14, 15.) Likewise today, some rejoice when they hear the good news for the first time. Even those who initially show no interest in the Kingdom message may later open their heart wide to accept it. What should we do when we find “rightly disposed” people in our ministry?

2. In what way is our disciple-making work like that of a gardener?

² Consider an illustration. Our disciple-making work can be compared to that of a gardener. If the fruit of one plant is ripe, the gardener probably harvests it even though he might still be tilling the soil or planting somewhere else in his garden. Similarly, when we find someone who is ready to accept our message, we want to help him to become a disciple of Christ as soon as possible. Meanwhile, we continue to cultivate the interest of others who need more time to see the value of what they are hearing. (John 4:35, 36) Discernment will help us choose the approach that is best for our listeners. Let us now consider what we can do during our first conversation to help people who are ready to respond. We will also consider how we can help such ones to continue progressing.

WHEN PEOPLE ARE READY TO RESPOND

3. What approach might we use when we find interested ones in our ministry? (1 Corinthians 9:26)

³ When we find interested people in our ministry, we want to help them to get started on the road to life right away. In such cases, we should not hold back from offering a Bible study and inviting them to our meetings during the very first conversation.​—Read 1 Corinthians 9:26.

4. Relate an experience of someone who was ready for a Bible study immediately.

⁴ Offering a study. Some we speak with are ready for a Bible study immediately. For instance, one Thursday a young woman in Canada approached a literature cart and picked up a copy of the Enjoy Life Forever! brochure. The sister at the cart explained that the brochure came with a free Bible study. The young woman was interested and shared her contact information. Later that day, the young woman texted the sister about the study. When the sister offered to come on the weekend, the young woman asked: “How about tomorrow? I’m free.” They had the study that Friday. The young woman attended her first meeting that very weekend and continued to make rapid progress.

5. How can we show discernment when offering a Bible study? (See also pictures.)

⁵ Of course, we do not expect all who listen to our message to be as eager as that young woman was. The interest of some may need further cultivation. We may first need to start a conversation on a topic that interests the person. Still, if we maintain a positive attitude and keep showing personal interest in the individual, in a short time, we may be able to start a study. What can we say when offering the study? That question was posed to a number of brothers and sisters who are effective at starting Bible studies.

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6. How might we offer to continue the discussion with an interested person?

⁶ The publishers and the pioneers who were asked about starting studies explained that in some lands it is best to avoid such terms as “study,” “Bible course,” or “teach you” when describing the study. They noted that what works better is using such expressions as “conversation,” “discussion,” and “get to know the Bible.” You could introduce the idea of continuing the conversation by saying, “It’s surprising how life’s important questions are answered in the Bible” or “The Bible is not just a religious book; it helps us in practical ways.” You could add: “It doesn’t take a lot of time; 10 to 15 minutes is enough to learn something valuable.” That could be said without using the terms “appointment” or “every week,” which could imply a commitment.

7. When have some first recognized Bible truth? (1 Corinthians 14:23-25)

⁷ Invite them to a meeting. It seems that in the apostle Paul’s time, some first recognized Bible truth when they attended a Christian meeting. (Read 1 Corinthians 14:23-25.) The same is often true today. Most new ones progress more quickly once they begin attending our meetings. When should you invite them? The Enjoy Life Forever! book includes an invitation in lesson 10, but you do not need to wait until you have reached that part of the book. From the very first conversation, you could invite your listener to the weekend meeting, perhaps mentioning the title of the public talk or a point from that week’s Watchtower Study.

8. What aspects of our meetings can we focus on when inviting someone to attend? (Isaiah 54:13)

⁸ When inviting an interested person, explain how our meetings are different from the religious services he may be used to. When a Bible student attended her first Watchtower Study, she asked her teacher, “Does the conductor know everyone’s name?” The sister explained that we all try to know the names of those in our congregation, just as we know the names of our family members. The student found this to be quite different from her experience in church. Similarly, the purpose of our meetings is new for many. (Read Isaiah 54:13.) We meet to worship Jehovah, to learn from him, and to encourage one another. (Heb. 2:12; 10:24, 25) As a result, our meetings are orderly and practical, not ritualistic. (1 Cor. 14:40) The auditorium is well-lit because we come to the Kingdom Hall to learn. And we never promote one political party over another because we are politically neutral; nor do we engage in shouting matches or disputes. It may be helpful beforehand to show the student the video What Happens at a Kingdom Hall? That way he will know what to expect.

9-10. When inviting someone to attend a meeting, what can we do to assure him that we will not pressure him to join or to participate? (See also picture.)

⁹ Some hesitate to attend a meeting because they are afraid that they will be asked to “join a church.” Assure the person that we enjoy having visitors and that we do not pressure them to join or to participate. Families are welcome, including those with young children. At our meetings, children do not receive separate instruction. Instead, parents and children sit together and learn together. In this way, parents know whom their children are with and what they are being taught. (Deut. 31:12) We do not take up collections or pass out donation envelopes. Instead, we follow Jesus’ command: “You received free, give free.” (Matt. 10:8) You might also mention to the individual that he does not need expensive clothing to attend. God looks at the heart, not at a person’s appearance.​—1 Sam. 16:7.

¹⁰ If the person attends, do what you can to make him feel welcome. Introduce him to the elders and to other publishers. If he feels at home, he will be more likely to want to return. During the meeting, if he does not have a Bible, share yours with him and show him how we follow the reasoning of the speaker or of the study.

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WHEN A BIBLE STUDY IS STARTED

11. How can you show that you respect your listener’s time and schedule?

¹¹ What points should we keep in mind about the home Bible study itself? Respect the householder’s time and schedule. For example, if you make an appointment, be on time, regardless of the way people in your area view punctuality. In addition, you may find it best to keep the first session reasonably short. Some experienced publishers suggest finishing early, even if the person wants to hear more. And do not talk too much. Let the householder express himself.​—Prov. 10:19.

12. What should be our goal from the start of a home Bible study?

¹² From the very start, your goal should be to help your listener to come to know Jehovah and Jesus and to develop love for them. You do this by directing attention to God’s Word instead of to yourself and your Bible knowledge. (Acts 10:25, 26) The apostle Paul often focused his teaching on Jesus Christ, the one whom Jehovah sent to help us to know and love Him. (1 Cor. 2:1, 2) Paul also made it clear how important it is to help new disciples to develop fine qualities, which can be compared to gold, silver, and precious stones. (1 Cor. 3:11-15) Such valuable qualities include faith, wisdom, discernment, and the fear of Jehovah. (Ps. 19:9, 10; Prov. 3:13-15; 1 Pet. 1:7) Imitate Paul’s method of teaching by helping your students to develop a strong faith and a personal relationship with their loving heavenly Father.​—2 Cor. 1:24.

13. How can we show patience and understanding as we help interested ones? (2 Corinthians 10:4, 5) (See also picture.)

¹³ Follow Jesus’ way of teaching by showing patience and understanding. Avoid asking questions that make the person uncomfortable. If necessary, move past points that he struggles with and return to these later. Rather than try to force him to accept a teaching before he is ready, allow time for the truth to take root in his heart. (John 16:12; Col. 2:6, 7) The Bible compares the false teachings we are trying to overcome to a fortress. (Read 2 Corinthians 10:4, 5; see study note on “overturning strongly entrenched things.”) Instead of pulling down your student’s fortress on top of him, help him make Jehovah his Refuge.​—Ps. 91:9.

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WHEN NEW ONES ATTEND MEETINGS

14. How should we treat new ones who attend our meetings?

¹⁴ Jehovah expects us to be impartial in our treatment of new ones, regardless of their culture, social status, or ethnic background. (Jas. 2:1-4, 9) So how can we show love to those who visit our meetings?

15-16. How can we help new ones to feel welcome at our meetings?

¹⁵ Some individuals may simply come to our meetings out of curiosity or may have been urged to attend by someone living in another area. So we should not hesitate to approach such ones who come to our meeting place. Welcome them without overwhelming them. Invite them to sit with you. Share your Bible and study materials, or provide them with their own copies. In addition, consider their feelings. One man who visited a Kingdom Hall told the brother who welcomed him that he was nervous about being in casual clothes. The brother made him feel at ease and explained that Jehovah’s Witnesses are just normal people. The man, who eventually progressed to baptism, never forgot the brother’s response. A word of caution, though: When you speak with visitors before or after the meeting, show personal interest without prying into their personal matters.​—1 Pet. 4:15.

¹⁶ We can also make our visitors feel welcome by being respectful in our conversations, comments, and meeting parts when referring to non-Witnesses or their beliefs. Avoid expressions that could stumble them or be viewed as an insult. (Titus 2:8; 3:2) For instance, we would never disparage the beliefs of those who do not share our faith. (2 Cor. 6:3) In this regard, brothers giving public talks take special care. They also show that they keep in mind non-Witnesses in the audience by explaining words or concepts that the public would not understand.

17. What is our goal when we find “rightly disposed” ones in our ministry?

¹⁷ Our disciple-making work becomes more urgent with each passing day, and we continue to find people who are “rightly disposed for everlasting life.” (Acts 13:48) When we do, we should not hesitate to offer them a Bible study or invite them to our meetings. By doing so, we can help them take their first steps on “the road leading off into life.”​—Matt. 7:14.

The Kassholms attended Gilead School in 1979 and over the years were “planted,” or assigned, to serve in Iran, Mauritius, Myanmar, Tanzania, Uganda, and Zaire. It was at Gilead that they heard an instructor, Jack Redford, give the advice that helped them as they were “planted,” “uprooted,” and “replanted” many times. Let them explain.

Mats, please tell us first how you found the truth.

Mats: Living in Poland during World War II, my father saw much hypocrisy in the Catholic Church. Still, he often said, “The truth must be out there somewhere!” In time, I was able to confirm that it was. I bought many secondhand books. One was a blue book called The Truth That Leads to Eternal Life. That title really caught my attention, and I read the entire book on the night that I got it. By morning, I knew that I had found the truth!

From April 1972 onward, I read many more publications of Jehovah’s Witnesses and received answers to my Bible questions. I felt like the merchant in Jesus’ illustration who, after finding one pearl of high value, sold everything he had in order to buy it. I “sold” my plans of pursuing a university education and becoming a physician​—all to buy the “pearl” of truth that I had found. (Matt. 13:45, 46) I got baptized on December 10, 1972.

Within a year, my parents and younger brother also accepted the truth and got baptized. In July 1973, I started full-time service. Among the zealous pioneers in our congregation was an attractive, spiritually-minded sister named Ann-Catrin. We fell in love and got married in 1975, spending the next four years in the town of Strömsund, a beautiful, fruitful territory in Sweden.

Ann-Catrin: My father learned the truth toward the end of his university studies in Stockholm. I was only three months old at the time, but he took me to the meetings and out in field service. Mom did not like this and tried to prove the Witnesses wrong. But she couldn’t, so in time she too got baptized. At age 13, I got baptized, and at 16 years of age, I started pioneering. After serving in Umeå, where there was a great need for Kingdom publishers, I became a special pioneer.

After Mats and I married, we had the joy of helping several people learn the truth. Among them was Maivor, a teenage girl who gave up a career in sports and became my younger sister’s pioneer partner. They attended Gilead in 1984 and are serving as missionaries in Ecuador.

In your many missionary assignments, how did you follow the advice to “bloom where you are planted”?

Mats: We were frequently “replanted” in new assignments. But we tried to stay “rooted” in Jesus by doing our best to imitate him, especially his humility. (Col. 2:6, 7) For example, instead of expecting the local Witnesses to adapt to us, we tried to learn why they did things a certain way. We wanted to understand their thinking and culture. The more we imitated Jesus, the more we felt that we were “planted by streams of water” to bloom wherever we were assigned.​—Ps. 1:2, 3.

Ann-Catrin: To grow after being replanted, a tree also needs warm sunlight. Jehovah always proved to be “a sun” for us. (Ps. 84:11) He provided us with a warm, loving brotherhood of spiritual brothers and sisters. For example, in our small congregation in Tehran, Iran, we experienced hospitality that was common in Bible times. We would have loved to stay in Iran, but in July 1980, Jehovah’s Witnesses were officially banned there and we were given notice to leave in 48 hours. We were reassigned to Zaire (now known as Congo) in Africa.

When I first learned that we were reassigned to Africa, I cried. What I had heard about snakes and diseases in Africa scared me. But two close friends who had long served there told us: “You haven’t been there yet! Give it a chance, and you’ll see​—Africa grows on you.” And it did! The brothers and sisters are loving and warm. In fact, when we had to leave Zaire six years later because of a ban, I smiled to myself because I realized that I was now praying to Jehovah, “Please, let us stay in Africa.”

What joys have you experienced over the years?

Mats: I have to mention the warm friendships we have forged with missionaries of different nationalities and backgrounds. Also, in some assignments, we experienced the exceptional joy that comes from conducting many Bible studies​—sometimes about 20 each! The love and hospitality of the African brothers and sisters also stands out in my mind. During our visits to the congregations in Tanzania, many friends showed us hospitality “beyond their means” when we parked our “bedroom”​—a Volkswagen Kombi—​alongside their homes. (2 Cor. 8:3) Something very special to us is what we called story time. That was when, at the end of each day, Ann-Catrin and I would sit down to talk about the day’s events and thank Jehovah for being with us.

Ann-Catrin: For me, a great joy has been to live among our international brotherhood. We learned new languages​—including Farsi, French, Luganda, and Swahili—​while experiencing a variety of interesting cultures. We nurtured new disciples, made true friends, and worked “shoulder to shoulder” with them in Jehovah’s service.​—Zeph. 3:9.

We also saw amazing variety in Jehovah’s beautiful creation. Each time we accepted a new assignment in Jehovah’s service, we felt as if we were taking a journey with Jehovah as our Guide. He has given us experiences that we would never have had on our own.

What challenges have you faced, and how did you deal with them?

Mats: We contracted several tropical diseases over the years, including malaria. And Ann-Catrin had a few emergency surgeries. We also worried about our aging parents, so we are grateful to our siblings who acted as primary caregivers. They faithfully carried out that role with patience, joy, and love. (1 Tim. 5:4) Still, at times, we struggled with negative emotions, wishing that we could do more for our parents than just provide support from a distance.

Ann-Catrin: In 1983, while serving in Zaire, I suffered a severe attack of cholera. The doctor told Mats, “Take her out of this country today!” The following day, we were on a cargo plane​—the only flight available—​headed for Sweden.

Mats: We thought that our missionary service had come to an end, so we cried bitter tears. Contrary to the doctor’s predictions, though, Ann-Catrin recovered. And a year later, we were able to return to Zaire, this time to a small Swahili congregation in Lubumbashi.

Ann-Catrin: During our time in Lubumbashi, I suffered a miscarriage. Though we did not have in mind starting a family, the loss of our baby was extremely difficult for me to bear. During that time of sadness, however, we experienced an unexpected gift from Jehovah. We started more Bible studies than ever before. In less than a year, the congregation grew from 35 to 70 publishers, and meeting attendance climbed from 40 to 220. We were intensely occupied in the ministry, and Jehovah’s blessing brought me considerable comfort. Still, we often think and talk about our dear little one. We can’t wait to see just how Jehovah will provide complete healing for our hearts.

Mats: At one point, Ann-Catrin became extremely fatigued. I was diagnosed with stage-four colon cancer and needed major surgery. But today I’m doing well, and Ann-Catrin is doing all she can.

We have come to realize that we are not the only ones dealing with trials. After the 1994 genocide in Rwanda, we visited many friends in refugee camps. Witnessing their faith, endurance, and never-failing hospitality taught us that Jehovah has the power to sustain his people through any trial.​—Ps. 55:22.

Ann-Catrin: Another challenge came when we attended the branch dedication in Uganda in 2007. After the program, we were traveling with a group of about 25 missionaries and Bethelites to Nairobi, Kenya. Before we reached the Kenya border, an oncoming lorry suddenly swerved into our lane and hit us head-on. The driver and five of our friends died instantly; one sister passed away later at the hospital. How we long to see our friends again!​—Job 14:13-15.

I eventually recovered from my physical injuries. But Mats and I were among several of the passengers who suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder. In my case, the anxiety attacks came at night, waking me up with symptoms resembling a heart attack. That was frightening. But fervent prayer to Jehovah coupled with comfort from some of our favorite scriptures helped us to cope. We also received professional help, which proved to be beneficial. Now the symptoms have become more manageable, and we ask Jehovah to help us comfort others who battle a similar affliction.

When describing how you have been able to cope with challenging situations, you said that Jehovah carried you “like raw eggs.” What did you mean?

Mats: That expression comes from the Swahili saying “Tumebebwa kama mayai mabichi,” or “We were carried like raw eggs.” Just as a person carefully carries raw eggs to prevent them from breaking, Jehovah has tenderly supported us in each one of our assignments. We have always had what we needed, even more than we needed. One way that we have felt Jehovah’s love and support is through the empathy shown to us by the Governing Body.

Ann-Catrin: I’d like to mention an example of Jehovah’s tender support. One day I received a phone call informing me that my father, in Sweden, was in intensive care. Mats had just recovered from a bout of malaria. We could not afford to buy tickets to fly home, so we decided that we needed to sell our car. Then we received two more phone calls; one was from a couple who had heard about our situation and wanted to pay for one ticket. The other call was from an older sister who had saved some money in a box that she had labeled “For someone in need.” Within minutes, Jehovah had come to our rescue!​—Heb. 13:6.

Looking back over your 50 years of full-time service, what have you learned?

Ann-Catrin: I have come to appreciate that our strength is “in keeping calm and showing trust.” When we trust in Jehovah, he in a way makes our battle his battle. (Isa. 30:15; 2 Chron. 20:15, 17) By serving Jehovah to the best of our ability in each assignment, we have received more blessings than we could have received any other way.

Mats: The main lesson I have learned is to rely on Jehovah in every situation and see how he will act in my behalf. (Ps. 37:5) He has never failed to fulfill his promise to do so. We are still seeing the truthfulness of this in our present Bethel assignment in Myanmar.

We hope that many younger ones who want to expand their ministry will experience the same loyal love that Jehovah has shown to us. We are confident that they will if they allow Jehovah to bring them to full bloom, wherever they are planted.

The writer of Proverbs 30:18, 19 said that “the way of a man with a young woman” was ‘beyond comprehension.’ In what sense is that true?

Many have puzzled over these words, including some scholars. The complete passage in the New World Translation reads: “There are three things that are beyond my comprehension [or, “too wonderful,” ftn.], and four that I do not understand: The way of an eagle in the heavens, the way of a serpent on a rock, the way of a ship in the open sea, and the way of a man with a young woman.”​—Prov. 30:18, 19.

Previously, we understood the phrase “the way of a man with a young woman” as having a negative sense. Why? The context mentions negative things that never say “enough.” (Prov. 30:15, 16) And verse 20 speaks of “an adulterous woman” who claims to have done nothing wrong. Hence, we reasoned that like a soaring eagle, a snake on a rock, or an ancient ship in the open sea, the man may leave no trace of his activity. Based on that reasoning, we understood that the expression “the way of a man with a young woman” referred to something bad​—a cunning young man who might seduce a naive young woman without her realizing what was happening.

However, there is good reason to view the passage in a positive light. The writer was simply marveling at the things mentioned.

The original Hebrew supports the view that this verse means something positive. According to the Theological Lexicon of the Old Testament, the Hebrew word translated “beyond my comprehension” at Proverbs 30:18 “indicates an event that a person . . . finds extraordinary, impossible, even wonderful.”

Professor Crawford H. Toy of Harvard University in the United States also concluded that this Bible passage does not here describe something negative. He stated: “The point is rather the wonderfulness of the things named.”

So it seems reasonable to state that the words recorded at Proverbs 30:18, 19 are describing things that are truly wonderful, even beyond our comprehension. Like the Bible writer, we are awed by how an eagle can soar, how a legless serpent can glide over a rock, how a heavy ship can travel across the sea, and how a young man and a young woman can fall in love and have a happy life together.

Jesus has always been obedient to Jehovah. (John 8:29) Why, then, does the Bible say: “He learned obedience from the things he suffered”?​—Heb. 5:8.

While on earth, Jesus faced circumstances that did not exist in heaven. He was raised by devoted but imperfect parents. (Luke 2:51) He suffered at the hands of corrupt religious leaders and unjust secular rulers. (Matt. 26:59; Mark 15:15) Furthermore, “he humbled himself and became obedient to the point of death,” an agonizing death.​—Phil. 2:8.

These experiences taught Jesus obedience in a way that he had never learned in heaven. He thus could become the perfect King and High Priest, one who could sympathize with us. (Heb. 4:15; 5:9) Jesus became more valuable to Jehovah after learning obedience from the things he suffered. We too can become more precious to Jehovah and useful for any assignment he might give us when we remain obedient under challenging circumstances.​—Jas. 1:4.